I have been asked that question hundreds of times by now. If you’ve been reading my blog, then you’ll know that there is a story from my childhood that has led me to become a foster Mother. However, recently when asked I simply reply “why not?”
I mean in all honesty, that’s the real answer to that question. When I am asked “why” I would take in a child that needs a safe, warm and loving home there’s no other response. It’s simply because Josh and I can provide a safe, warm and loving home to anyone who walks through our door. We have a hard time saying no to any placement call we receive. We started out with a spare bedroom and knew that we wanted it to be home to a child who needed it. I plan to keep that spare bedroom full as long as I can.
My counter question can be followed by several other questions. Do you have a spare bedroom? Do you have room in your heart to love someone who needs it? Can you open your home to a child in need? If you have the room and the time, why wouldn’t you?
Foster care isn’t for the faint of heart. There are so many sad and terrible situations that these children have experienced, that would make even the “toughest” people cry. But that’s what we are here for, to love them, to help them heal and live their lives to the fullest! There are plenty of stories of the “foster child who ran away, attacked someone, broke something etc.” As I’ve said before, while we were going through our training’s random strangers would always warn us and tell us stories about their “moms, sister’s, cousin’s foster kid” who did something bad. What that random stranger doesn’t know, is the truth behind that child’s behavior. The trauma that must have led to that expression of anger or sadness. Where is the sympathy for that?
When we hear about PTSD, we think about veteran’s and policemen-right? I didn’t think to relate PTSD to a child who experienced something so badly in their life it haunts them. I never knew that was a thing until I became a foster Mom.
So I guess what I’m trying to say, is “educate yo’self.” If you are curious about becoming a foster parent- contact your local agency! There are so many ways you can help, even if you can’t commit to having a child full time. Respite is huge! Helping to spread the word about your local agency is huge! Collection donations for toiletries, clothes, etc. There is also plenty of literature you can read to learn about other’s personal experiences. There’s also me! I would love to talk about our journey and be a source of support to anyone who wants to be a foster parent as well.
I plan to surprise my distant family members and friends with the news of our newest addition this coming Thanksgiving, but I’m sure none of them read my blog (ha-) so I can write about it freely here. A beautiful, 3 month old baby girl joined our household this last Thursday! We will refer to her as L, for her safety. She has been a pleasant addition to our family so far. Estelle is loving her up any chance she gets, rubbing her head and kissing her cheeks. She is growing into the big sister role in her own way. S has also been ecstatic about having a new baby in the house. She snuggles her any chance she can get and has been a huge help to me the last few days.
I have received plenty of positive feedback about adding another child to our home. But when I receive any type of negative feedback, it just makes my blood boil. I never want to bring that negative energy to my being but I can’t allow people to speak negatively about an innocent child in any way. I encourage everyone to listen to the following Public Service Announcement brought to you by Thumper:
Thank you all for reading, as always. I apologize if I end up taking a hiatus from writing for a while, I am now responsible for two children under 3 years old so I am going to have to learn how to juggle for a little bit!