It has been a week- let me tell ya! As excited as I was for Christmas to come this year, I was more excited for it to be over. I am just drained. Our household was hit by a “super cold” (as I’ve been calling it), even the littlest one. Christmas Day consisted of us putting on a brunch for our family and spending the rest of the day lying around the house surrounded by tissues and boogery babies. Even among all her gifts, Estelle was still not as enthused as I imagined her to be. It was a long few days but we are all on the mend and ready to get on with the new year.
Like most people do on New Years Eve, I have been reflecting on the last 365 days of my life and even more so the last decade of my life. It seems like it went by so quickly and things have changed tremendously throughout that time. So I am going to utilize this blog post to reflect on that.
This is easily one of the most important years of my decade. It was my freshman year of high school and the year that Josh and I started dating. He was my first “serious” high school boyfriend. I had been working my first job for just about a year and living with my Mom, Step-father and siblings.
This was a trying year for me. It was the year that my Great Aunt passed away and it was the first time that I had lost someone who I was somewhat close to. I had a pretty tight girl group of friends and I also got my driving permit. My Dad was the one who took me in a car for the first time in a church parking lot on Thanksgiving, with my little brother in the back seat grabbing on for dear life.
This year holds the Summer I got my license and my first car, a 1994 Mazda 323 also known as the Cherry Tomato. I was the first of my friend group to have a car, I was (almost) free to do whatever I wanted and it was great.
In all honesty, 2013 was a pretty eventful year looking back. After living with my Mom for several years, I made the decision to move back home with my Grandparents. I started my first job as a waitress in a small Tapas bar. I found out the girls I was friends with were not really my friends at all. It was also the year that Josh’s younger sister Robin was born, who has made a huge impact on my life. Josh graduated high school and moved into his first apartment with his friend Kevin. And we also got our first cat, Figaro.
The year I graduated high school- woot! I was so ready to be done with high school and out into the world. I started college in the Fall, Josh and I moved into our first apartment together and adopted our second cat, Monroe. My best friend Sam, left for college at SUNY Oneonta and I was kind of struggling at figuring out the whole adult thing.
Not much happened that I can recall, which is a good thing. I worked the most I’ve ever worked during this time. I was a nanny, test proctor, cashier and waitress all at the same time. I was super busy, while also going to college and somehow managing to keep my grades up. This was the year I decided to be a phlebotomist and pursued that instead of just general health.
2016 was by far the most challenging year for me. Josh and I helped our friends move out of a bad situation and moved them into our tiny 2 bedroom apartment. I finished my phlebotomy schooling and got a job where I am currently working and Josh graduated from SUNY Cortland. Our relationship went through some challenges and we broke up for a few months, I left our apartment and moved back home with my Grandparents. I spent a lot of time with Sam, getting into all sorts of trouble while trying to figure myself out.
Easily one of the better years of my life! Josh and I got back together on New Years Eve and started fresh. A few months later we found out I was pregnant with Estelle. We bought our first house together and became a happy little family of 3 in November. This was also the year that Sam moved to South Carolina and I was really mad at her for missing Estelle’s birth, but I knew she was better of getting out of New York.
This year holds the trials and tribulations of Josh and I figuring out how to parent-really. When Estelle was a few months old, Josh brought up being willing to start looking into becoming foster parents. I lessened my hours at work so I could be home with Estelle and take care of her. Josh started his job as a fitness instructor and later began working on his personal training certificate. My Mom and her husband split up, starting a whirlwind of drama for us which carried into the next year but we all figured it out.
This year started off with a whole lot of drama (as I just mentioned). My sister moved in with us full time and we got to learn all about taking care of a teenager. Relationships of all scales were strained and we were all a little stressed at some points! I changed my mindset about life this year, I became a vegetarian, made the goal of becoming a homesteader and even went on a weekend learning experience that further motivated me to accomplish my goals! We finished our foster parent training and got our first placement in April. We then got our second placement in November. All in all, 2019 ended on a positive note.
So there you have it, my decade in summary. I’m sure there are many important points throughout time that I forgot to include, but what can I say? I have the worst Mom brain I have ever had. I also got cut off while I was writing this, hence why it is being posted in 2020 and not 2019 but whatever.
My 2020 goals or resolutions include:
- Learning more about homesteading, new skills and so forth
- Getting rid of material items in an attempt to be more minimalist
- Saving money
- Making my home more zero waste friendly
- Growing a better garden than last year
- Being a better Mom
- Reading more, Journaling more
- Spending less time on my phone/social media in general
- Taking the kids on more outside excursions
- Helping my Grandparents more
- Being more active- yoga, working out, whatever
I’m a big dreamer, what can I say? But there’s literally no reason why I can’t better myself all around in the name of a New Year. I always strive to be better than I am currently, not necessarily perfect but I know that there are ways that I can change so I am happier with myself. Today, January 1st 2020 was a pretty good day and if the rest of the days in 2020 are pretty good then I’d say that’s good enough for me.
What are your New Years Resolutions? Do you have any?